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What is NLP and how can it help me?

When people discover that I am an NLP Practitioner, I often get asked this question.

What is NLP and how can it help me?

Since I have discovered NLP and started putting it into practice I have come across so many definitions/explanations for NLP. Many of them can go into a lot of detail and become complicated leaving the reader/listener confused. This is a terrible tragedy as using NLP can have a profound and positive effect on your life so I would like to explain it today in a very simplified way.

NLP stands for Neuro Linguistic Programming.

Now I know that sounds very scientific, but stick with me!

Very simply this breaks down as follows.

Neuro – the thoughts you think.

Linguistic – the words you use to express your thoughts or feelings.

Programming – the way you do things (or you have learned/programmed yourself to do things.)

So basically NLP helps you to focus on the three main things that ultimately define every single result that we produce in our lives. How you think, how you talk and how you act.

  1. How you think (Neuro): What do you tell yourself in your own head? Do you tell yourself that you are capable or you are not capable of whatever situation you are presented with? The thoughts YOU are producing, the things that YOU are telling yourself will have a direct affect on the way you express yourself and how you act.
  2. How you talk (Linguistic): How do you express yourself to other people? Would you consider yourself a good communicator, a good listener? I see this as being directly linked to how you think. Let me illustrate this with an example. Let’s say you are not feeling very confident in completing a task; e.g.  winning a new client or getting a new job. If you do not believe you are the person for the job, then this is what you will tell yourself (your thoughts). What do you think happens when you start speaking? The words you choose to use may express this lack of confidence and hence you may not get the result you desire.
  3. How you act (Programming): Do you do the things you want to do? Do you achieve the goals you set for yourself? Are the actions you take to the best of your ability (or do you tell yourself that they are?) Again I see this as being directly linked to how you think. You tell yourself you can’t achieve something, which results in no action being taken, or you tell yourself you can do something and you find a way to make it happen.

 

So how can NLP help you?

Basically NLP can help you to find the root causes of why you think or believe the things you do, why you express yourself they way you do and why you act the way you do. It also helps you to see why you may be getting the same results over and over again.

NLP techniques will then help you to unplug this root cause, eliminating it and hence changing the way you think, talk and act to enable you to achieve the results you want.

Personally for me NLP helped me to unlock some deep rooted emotions which back then stopped me from standing up and being the person I wanted to be. Using NLP I was able to identify the root causes and change my perceptions helping me to move on and achieve the goals and results I had been talking about for years.

I hope you now have a better understanding of NLP and how it can help you too.

Should you be interested in having an NLP consultation with me, simply book your place HERE.

To your continued success,

Breda – helping you plan today for a brilliant tomorrow.
p.s. I’d love to hear your thoughts, comments or questions.
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p.p.s. For the month of May 2011 only these consultations are available at the very special offer of ONLY €33, in person or via SKYPE.

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What’s the best advice you got when starting out?

This year one of my goals is to help, support, train and coach as many start-up and small business owners as possible.

I am passionate about working with startups & small business owners as I believe these people;

1. Require extra support, someone to share the stress with and gain new perspectives from.

And,

2. Are more likely to help grow the local economy because as they grow they will also in turn support other small businesses.

I want to gather the advice that  helped you move forward when you were facing some tough challenges. Maybe when you were starting out, hit a lull in your business or when starting off in you career?

Whatever the advice was please share it, in the hope that it will help someone else at a time when they need a great piece of advice!

So if you are a person who has come through some tough challenges, I’d like to invite you to share the best advice you received to help you through – you can even recognise the person who gave it to you, and what happened as a result! Please complete the form below and I will collate the entries into a document to be shared.

Your contribution will be recognised in the document and when it is ready I will send you the document via email.

Please do pass this on..
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To your continued success,

Breda – helping you plan today for a brilliant tomorrow.
p.s. I’d love to hear your thoughts, comments or questions.
Simply submit into the comment box below and I’ll respond ASAP!

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The no more excuses campaign yields results!

How many things have you sitting on your to-do lists that have not been tackled yet?

Do you feel like you will never get around to them?

Do you tell yourself that you don’t have the time?

Do you think you will ever see the day when they will be completed?

Life can sometimes turn into one long list of things to do, can’t it? Everyone has a lot to do, but how come some people seem to pack so much in and create results, and some people don’t?

We are all guilty of it, putting things on the long finger that is! I know I am, but as this year I have committed to “No more excuses”, I had to come up with an alternative!!

So last week one of my top priorities was reducing my “long finger list”. Some of the listings on there were attached to excuses such as:

  • I don’t have the time
  • I don’t know how to do that
  • I don’t want to do that
  • That will take too long

I’m sure you can relate!

So I sat at my desk one morning and as planning is my thing, I created a plan to reduce this list and then implemented it.

Planning:
This turned out to be easier than I had originally told myself. I decided to give myself 1 hour a day to look at these tasks and only these tasks. I moved all of my “long finger” tasks onto a new Action list and ensured that I had no other distractions for that hour.

Focus:
During that hour I took on one task at a time and ensured it was completed in full before I moved onto the next one. It’s amazing how much you can accomplish when you put a time limit on it! And as I pleasantly discovered, a lot of tasks don’t take as long as you would think!

And the result, well that list has significantly reduced in size and some of the results I am starting to see have amazed me!!

More importantly than that, I have realized that these tasks were on this list for a reason and for a few of them I had lost sight of the reason they were there, but it was a lot easier than I thought to get back on track again.

So now it’s your turn to plan and implement and I would love to hear how you get on!

To your continued success,

Breda – helping you take your brain pain away.
p.s. I’d love to hear your thoughts, comments or questions.
Simply submit into the comment box below and I’ll respond ASAP!

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The Real Meaning of a “Goal”

So it’s that time again. The start of a new year!
This is usually the time of year when everyone starts creating their goals, New Year’s Resolutions and plans for the year ahead. By now I am sure you have already created your goal list, but I heard something the other day that made me re-look at my goal list and re-define some of them.

Are you like most people?
Is your goal list a “to-do” list?
Is it filled with activities you have been meaning to get around to for a while?
Or is it filled with goals?

I was at a meeting last Monday night when the speaker, Patricia O’Sullivan, suddenly caught my attention with the statement:

“A goal defines a point where things clearly change”.

Think about that for a minute, I know I did, I actually took more than a minute to think about it!

This goal should motivate you and fire you up emotionally. You should be able to imagine the way life could be when you reach that goal.
When you have set your goals, talk to people about them. Put them out there. Get perspective and get ideas. Voice your concerns and find solutions. Find the underlying issues to your concerns and work them out.

And most importantly – When you decide you’re going to do it, then and only then does it become a goal.

This inspired me to re-look at my own goal list to ensure that each item on the list lived up to this expectation and I have been busy creating my plans to achieve these goals.

When it comes time to make your plans, don’t be afraid that you may not know all the detail, just put down what you need to do.
As I have said before it’s not about knowing how you are going to reach that goal. You don’t have to know but stay focused on the goal itself.

So why not start today!
1. Define your goals (If you haven’t done so yet, check out this
article on goal setting)
2. Ensure each one meets the criteria above.
3. Start surrounding yourself with people to lift you up and help you forward.

Don’t give up – Everything is possible!
And remember to celebrate every success along the way – let each and every achievement build your confidence.

Just think what could happen after you start, you could reach your goal and change your life. Would that really be so bad?

To your continued success,

Breda – helping you take your brain pain away.

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Why Are We So Reluctant To Ask For Help?

In my line of work I meet people all the time who when they hear what I do, respond by saying “Oh I could really benefit from working with someone like you”.  Every time I hear this my immediate thought is “Brilliant, this person is prepared to step up, get the help they require to make the changes they need to make, and get the life they want”.

However, the majority of people fail to follow up on this statement, fail to take the next step to gain a new perspective on things and learn how they can change.

And this has led me to asking the question, ” Why are we so reluctant to ask for help?”

We all know that things are not going as well as they used to. Some people have come up against some major challenges in the last year or so. Some people have embraced these challenges and continued to move forward taking one step at a time.

But for others, these challenges have stopped them in their tracks. They now feel stuck, not knowing where to turn or what to do. They have many questions they do not have answers for.

For some this is an unfamiliar feeling that they do not know how to handle and for others this is something that has been present in their lives for some time now.

In normal day to day life if you came across a question that you do not have the answer for. What would you do – ask someone, right? And if they didn’t know then you would keep asking until you eventually get the information you need.

Why is it, when it comes to personal issues – like relationships, peace of mind, business success, life problems, health problems, financial problems, emotional problems – that we do not address these questions in the same way?

Yes, asking for help can be hard, but nothing changes if you don’t.

People often look around and try to solve their problems by copying someone else, but you cannot find yourself in someone else. Every person is different. Every person has their own challenges to overcome, but if you don’t deal with what your own core problems are first, you can often be left wondering why did it work for them and not me?

You gain strength, courage and commitment by every experience. It is up to you to learn from each one, and should you require some help to get answers to the questions you are facing then it is up to you to ask for it.

Personally, asking for help was something that took me some time to accept as the right thing to do. For years I had an image up for others to see and for me to hide behind. When I discovered this I decided to learn and grow.  It took courage for me to step out of my comfort zone and “expose” my flaws. But a funny thing happened, no-one else noticed! What they did notice was how content I became and how my image was now one of happiness. Since then I have completely changed my life and I now have things I have always said I wanted. I’m no longer asking the questions I could not find the answers for, because I got the help and support I needed to find them.

“That’s what learning is, after all, not whether we lose the game, but how we lose and how we’ve changed because of it and what we take away from it that we never had before, to apply to other games. Losing in a curious way, is winning.” Richard Bach

Be brave, take risks, noting can substitute for experience.

I wish you courage to ask for help to find the answers to the questions you have been asking.

Breda – helping you take your brain pain away.

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The Road to Success is Often Uphill and Poorly Lit

frustrationDisaster struck!

My computer died not once but twice this month and I was faced with the possibility of losing everything I have worked towards for the past year. Customer support gave me the grim news that my hard drive had failed and a replacement was required to restore it to factory settings. The first time it happened I took it as a sign that I needed a break for a few days, the second time, panic started to set in!

Do you know how much you depend on the things around you? Are you utilising ALL your skills and resources to get you where you need to go? I used to see my computer as the life line to my business, but my view has changed now. Read the rest of this entry »

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See It and You Will Get It

Happy Saint Patricks Day!!

A day of celebration all over the world. Who would have thought that a 16 year old boy who was captured from Britain by Irish raiders to work as a slave would go on to have such an impact on Ireland and indeed the world!
Apparently his journey to Sainthood started with a dream in which the Irish people were calling him back to “walk amongst them once more” . Everyone in this world has dreams. Do you know what yours are? If not maybe think about them now. Make them as big as possible. I’m sure St. Patrick did not set out to become a Saint, but he must have aimed pretty high to get there.

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