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Last Weekend I was Behind Bars…

Yes it’s true, last weekend I was in prison, but I went there voluntarily! One of my goals for this year was to become a volunteer. I had no idea where this goal would take me and certainly I had no idea that it would land me in a prison, but I am not a person to shrink away from a challenge and I also believe that everything happens for a reason so I took a leap into the unknown! And I am so glad I did.

Not knowing what to expect I simply had it in my head that I would help in some way, but what actually happened took me a little by surprise. I learned a lot, I cried with these people, I re-enforced my ability to be non-judgemental and most importantly I now truly understand the meaning of when you let your guard down and allow people to see the real you that they will return the favour.

The time I spent with these people also re-enforced for me that EVERYBODY has the power within them to turn their lives around, when they make the decision to do so – non-dependant of the circumstances they are in.

I learned how important it is just to sit and listen. Sometimes people are not looking for anything other than a listening ear. They just want to be heard, not judged, not have advice thrown at them, just simply have someone to listen to them.

We all have such busy lives at the moment that sometimes we fail to listen to what other people have to say. One of my favourite quotes is, “Are you listening or are you waiting to talk?” I believe Oprah Winfrey said this, and last weekend I got the chance to practice my listening skill more than I ever have before and it felt GREAT. People can work through their own thoughts and problems sometimes simply by expressing them, and all it takes is a listening ear. When is the last time you did that for someone? Listen to the whole entire story, maybe there is more to it that you originally thought.

I learned that behind every action there is a reason. We all have things done to us that we don’t like. We all have people that annoy us or that do things that we don’t understand, but when is the last time we sat down with the person in question and talked to them in order to figure out why?

I learned that unexpected help is often the most appreciated. Unexpected help gives people hope, helps them to believe in themselves a little more, and gives them support (maybe support they never knew they had access to). Support can come in so many different formats – advice, listening, resources, people or simply a hug to know you are appreciated, wanted, loved or listened to. We don’t always take the time to notice the people who have the invisible outreached hand or hear the silent cry.

We all have the ability to help in some shape or form. It can start with the question “What can I do to help you?”. So simple, yet sometimes can be life-changing.

I know that my own life has changed as a result of meeting these people. They helped me to develop as a coach, as a person, as a listener. They helped me to see that that everyone has a past – secrets, regrets, things they would like to change, that everyone has challenges BUT everyone can change their lives, everyone has the ability to become a different person, and most importantly that everyone has resources available to them right now –TODAY! They may be internal or external resources – WHO KNOWS?, But they are there. The question is do we use them? Do we stand up and ask for help and accept it when it is given? And do we act on this help?

In the majority of cases, the answer to these questions is NO.

I learned that this is a mistake. There is always a resource available to us. We have the ability to choose the type of person we are, the characteristics we are known for, the results we generate and leave behind. We are all great people deep down capable of giving and receiving great love. We all have the ability to believe in ourselves, recognise our positive internal traits and qualities.

We all have the ability to help others which in turn will help us to help ourselves, to grow as a person and live a better life.

To your continued success,

Breda – helping you take your brain pain away.
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What is NLP and how can it help me?

When people discover that I am an NLP Practitioner, I often get asked this question.

What is NLP and how can it help me?

Since I have discovered NLP and started putting it into practice I have come across so many definitions/explanations for NLP. Many of them can go into a lot of detail and become complicated leaving the reader/listener confused. This is a terrible tragedy as using NLP can have a profound and positive effect on your life so I would like to explain it today in a very simplified way.

NLP stands for Neuro Linguistic Programming.

Now I know that sounds very scientific, but stick with me!

Very simply this breaks down as follows.

Neuro – the thoughts you think.

Linguistic – the words you use to express your thoughts or feelings.

Programming – the way you do things (or you have learned/programmed yourself to do things.)

So basically NLP helps you to focus on the three main things that ultimately define every single result that we produce in our lives. How you think, how you talk and how you act.

  1. How you think (Neuro): What do you tell yourself in your own head? Do you tell yourself that you are capable or you are not capable of whatever situation you are presented with? The thoughts YOU are producing, the things that YOU are telling yourself will have a direct affect on the way you express yourself and how you act.
  2. How you talk (Linguistic): How do you express yourself to other people? Would you consider yourself a good communicator, a good listener? I see this as being directly linked to how you think. Let me illustrate this with an example. Let’s say you are not feeling very confident in completing a task; e.g.  winning a new client or getting a new job. If you do not believe you are the person for the job, then this is what you will tell yourself (your thoughts). What do you think happens when you start speaking? The words you choose to use may express this lack of confidence and hence you may not get the result you desire.
  3. How you act (Programming): Do you do the things you want to do? Do you achieve the goals you set for yourself? Are the actions you take to the best of your ability (or do you tell yourself that they are?) Again I see this as being directly linked to how you think. You tell yourself you can’t achieve something, which results in no action being taken, or you tell yourself you can do something and you find a way to make it happen.

 

So how can NLP help you?

Basically NLP can help you to find the root causes of why you think or believe the things you do, why you express yourself they way you do and why you act the way you do. It also helps you to see why you may be getting the same results over and over again.

NLP techniques will then help you to unplug this root cause, eliminating it and hence changing the way you think, talk and act to enable you to achieve the results you want.

Personally for me NLP helped me to unlock some deep rooted emotions which back then stopped me from standing up and being the person I wanted to be. Using NLP I was able to identify the root causes and change my perceptions helping me to move on and achieve the goals and results I had been talking about for years.

I hope you now have a better understanding of NLP and how it can help you too.

Should you be interested in having an NLP consultation with me, simply book your place HERE.

To your continued success,

Breda – helping you plan today for a brilliant tomorrow.
p.s. I’d love to hear your thoughts, comments or questions.
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p.p.s. For the month of May 2011 only these consultations are available at the very special offer of ONLY €33, in person or via SKYPE.

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7 Steps to Social Media Success Q&A

My “7 Steps to Social Media Success” E-Course, will take you through all the steps you need to get your social media platforms up and running.

Just in case you have questions, simply post them here (In the comment box below).. or you may find the question has already been answered for you!

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NOTE: Questions will be answered on Tuesday’s!!

Social Media is a tool to be used in your business.. Are you taking full advantage of it?

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What’s the best advice you got when starting out?

This year one of my goals is to help, support, train and coach as many start-up and small business owners as possible.

I am passionate about working with startups & small business owners as I believe these people;

1. Require extra support, someone to share the stress with and gain new perspectives from.

And,

2. Are more likely to help grow the local economy because as they grow they will also in turn support other small businesses.

I want to gather the advice that  helped you move forward when you were facing some tough challenges. Maybe when you were starting out, hit a lull in your business or when starting off in you career?

Whatever the advice was please share it, in the hope that it will help someone else at a time when they need a great piece of advice!

So if you are a person who has come through some tough challenges, I’d like to invite you to share the best advice you received to help you through – you can even recognise the person who gave it to you, and what happened as a result! Please complete the form below and I will collate the entries into a document to be shared.

Your contribution will be recognised in the document and when it is ready I will send you the document via email.

Please do pass this on..
 share this on Facebook, LinkedIn or if on Twitter, please use #PPFLchat

To your continued success,

Breda – helping you plan today for a brilliant tomorrow.
p.s. I’d love to hear your thoughts, comments or questions.
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Sometimes You Just Have To Stop

I had an important meeting to go to a couple of days ago so how annoyed do you think I was when I came down with a serious dose of the flu on Sunday. It was so bad that I literally could not get out of bed for a couple of days….. but what about the research and preparation I had to do for my meeting??

To actually get the full story we need to go back a week previous to this when I woke up one morning feeling pretty horrible with flu like symptoms also. I decided not to let it stop me and continued on working, thinking “ah it’s just a cold!” The next day I felt a little better and put my miraculous recovery down to my self medication tactics of working from my bed and sipping on hot drinks for a day! The next day I felt a little better and continued on as normal, had a weekend filled with meeting friends, socialising, exercise etc. Still singing my own praises of my miraculous recovery, even though I knew I was still not 100%! Until Sunday that was when I could not pretend anymore after my body decided to take control of the reigns!

So I was committed to my bed for 3 days, which actually turned out to be a blessing in disguise.. I got to catch up on a lot of reading and DVD’s that have been gathering a pile of dust for some time now. It also allowed me time to think and come up with idea’s and plans for the future.

5 days on I am still not 100% better but getting there and I have learned the following.

Give yourself time to rest: When your body gives you the nudge to rest, then take the hint or you could pay for it at a later stage. Everyone is busy but, we all need our rest time, especially when we are not feeling well. Even if we stop, life will still go on, and whatever needs to be done will get done, even if it’s not at the time you expect it!

Use the time to re-evaluate: I believe that when we get sick it happens because we are not paying attention to something our body is telling us. Instead of rushing your recovery, why not take the time to re-evaluate what’s going on in your life, and asses if any changes should be made. Just ensure to implement those changes when you return to full health again, or you could end up in a vicious cycle!

To your continued success,

Breda – helping you plan today for a brilliant tomorrow.
p.s. I’d love to hear your thoughts, comments or questions.
Simply submit into the comment box below and I’ll respond ASAP!

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Clutter = Chaos and Confusion

When I was in college my room-mates used to call me “Mammy”, and no it wasn’t because I was constantly trying to tell them what to do, it was because I always kept the place in order! And now whenever my group of friends want to get something organised they always say, let’s ask Breda to do it!

Have you ever heard the saying – “if you want to get something done, ask a busy person to do it!

People have often said to me – “You always seem to fit so much into your life”, and today I am going to tell you the secret why!

Planning and Organisation is my “thing”!! And I pride myself on it. Now, there have been times in my life when I was not so organised and as a result I found that I became confused, noting seemed to get done when I needed it to be, and eventually everything became chaotic and very hard to control.

So what’s my planning secret – Clutter control!
Yep, as simple as that.

Here are my thoughts on the types of clutter you could have in your life:

  • Environment Clutter: Look around you – what does your environment look like? Your desk, your office, your home? When your environment is cluttered, it may cause some of the results that you produce to be inconsistent. This could be due to the fact that you are constantly chasing your tail and due to this your plans run off track and in some cases out of control.
  • Head Clutter: I’m referring to the thoughts you think and what you tell yourself on a daily basis. Are these negative or positive thoughts? Do you believe you can do anything you set your mind to and get to work on producing the result, or do you sometimes give up before you even begin?

So do you have clutter in your life? If so, is it time to de-clutter?

I believe the three most important areas’ you need to keep clutter free are:

  1. Your office: It is important to keep this clutter free in order for you to get all your tasks completed on a daily and weekly basis. If you are constantly looking at mess and disorganisation then it can become very hard to keep your plan on track and your day under control.
  2. Your bedroom: What you need at the end of the day is a space to relax and unwind after a long hard day, so you can look forward to a great night’s sleep. And when you wake up in the morning it’s great to be in an environment that you can think clearly in before you start into your day.
  3. Your Head: This is of utmost importance. If you can’t turn off all the negative talk that you listen to on a daily basis then how can you achieve what you want to achieve? A great tip to help you clear some of this clutter if to write your thoughts down, then ask yourself questions like – How is this affecting me? When you write the answers, things can become very clear! And you can get so much more done when you are thinking clearly and focused.

Wishing you sometime this week to clear your clutter!

To your continued success,

Breda – helping you take your brain pain away.
p.s. I’d love to hear your thoughts, comments or questions.
Simply submit into the comment box below and I’ll respond ASAP!

p.p.s – I don’t know where I would be without the coaches and mentors who helped me to de-clutter my head! If you would like that chance,

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The no more excuses campaign yields results!

How many things have you sitting on your to-do lists that have not been tackled yet?

Do you feel like you will never get around to them?

Do you tell yourself that you don’t have the time?

Do you think you will ever see the day when they will be completed?

Life can sometimes turn into one long list of things to do, can’t it? Everyone has a lot to do, but how come some people seem to pack so much in and create results, and some people don’t?

We are all guilty of it, putting things on the long finger that is! I know I am, but as this year I have committed to “No more excuses”, I had to come up with an alternative!!

So last week one of my top priorities was reducing my “long finger list”. Some of the listings on there were attached to excuses such as:

  • I don’t have the time
  • I don’t know how to do that
  • I don’t want to do that
  • That will take too long

I’m sure you can relate!

So I sat at my desk one morning and as planning is my thing, I created a plan to reduce this list and then implemented it.

Planning:
This turned out to be easier than I had originally told myself. I decided to give myself 1 hour a day to look at these tasks and only these tasks. I moved all of my “long finger” tasks onto a new Action list and ensured that I had no other distractions for that hour.

Focus:
During that hour I took on one task at a time and ensured it was completed in full before I moved onto the next one. It’s amazing how much you can accomplish when you put a time limit on it! And as I pleasantly discovered, a lot of tasks don’t take as long as you would think!

And the result, well that list has significantly reduced in size and some of the results I am starting to see have amazed me!!

More importantly than that, I have realized that these tasks were on this list for a reason and for a few of them I had lost sight of the reason they were there, but it was a lot easier than I thought to get back on track again.

So now it’s your turn to plan and implement and I would love to hear how you get on!

To your continued success,

Breda – helping you take your brain pain away.
p.s. I’d love to hear your thoughts, comments or questions.
Simply submit into the comment box below and I’ll respond ASAP!

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© Copyright Breda Stackpool, 2010 – Breda Stackpool, founder of Perfect Plans For Life, believes everyone can create and implement a plan to have the Business and/or Lifestyle they want. She publishes her newsletters and articles to give you tips, advice and resources to make small changes in your life so you can dramatically change your results. This free information is available in her “Prioritise Your Success” newsletters and E-book “Becoming Unstuck.

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